Saturday, 4 August 2012

Be gracious

I am seriously contemplating shutting down my Facebook and Twitter accounts. Why? Because I am getting very tired.

Not tired of maintaining it (for someone who logs in everyday, that's definitely not a problem). But tired of seeing so many status-es going on about the same thing.

People complain, people grieve, people explode. It's all just a matter of time. And self-control. There's nothing wrong with expressing your emotions, because it's not good to bottle it up all inside. But doesn't that mean that by telling someone (or everyone) your problems, you're dumping your problems on them?

Maybe you don't ask for their advice. Maybe you don't even expect anything in return. But it's perfunctory for listeners to offer a little advice for the one in suffering. And then there's that fear of saying the wrong thing and offending him/her.

Sometimes, you don't expect anyone to leave comments. But it can get a little irritating for your Facebook friends if they see you complaining over and over again on Facebook about how unfair the world is, yadda-yadda.

Get away from the computer screen and go outside. Look at the sky and see how bright the sun shines. Then come back and tell me, is the world really that awful? Or is it just that you blinded yourself to all that was good in life?

While you are here complaining about how you didn't get to go out with your friends on Sunday, someone could be praying for a warm home to go back to. While you are complaining about eating mushy peas, know that it tastes a lot better than fresh tree bark. Perhaps the Internet at your house is slow, but there are many people out there who don't even have the luxury of a computer, let alone the privilege of using the Internet.

There are many things that are bad in life, and it's not fair that you get an extra helping of it. But as Kelly Clarkson once sung, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. If you were once a victim of bullying, I would definitely symphathize with you, but that doesn't mean I think it's alright for you to muck about life, being moody and cynical about everything in life.

It's okay to be sad now and then, but don't inflict it on others and treat it as if it were the end of the world. Remember that life is very short, and you only have one chance to enjoy it as much as you can. If all you wish to do with it is point out every single flaw in it, then you will never know what true happiness is, even if it was thrust right before your eyes.

It is not my business if you want to make your life a misery. But know that your friends have the right to be happy and carefree. And only because you're sad, it doesn't mean that everyone else doesn't deserve to be happy.

If you want to complain or thrash about someone/something, you can always just keep a diary.

Just know that as long as the sun is shining, and there is laughter and love, then the end of the world is still far, far away in the future.